Quirks of Korean dating explained (6) Negative views of unmarried cohabitation (2024)

Quirks of Korean dating explained (6) Negative views of unmarried cohabitation (1)

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They say love is universal, but when it comes to dating culture, Korea has a different love language, according to five international couples that The Korea Herald interviewed. From love ‘confessions’ to matching outfits, here are some dating norms that set Korea apart. –- Ed.

In some Western countries, moving in together is considered an important step for a couple trying to take their relationship to the next level. But in Korea, an unmarried couple living together is taboo.

A survey released in March by the Korea Institute for Health and Social Affairs showed 63.1 percent of 8,000 adults aged over 19 “objected to” the idea of living together before marriage, while 36.9 percent said they were in support. The survey was conducted between September-October last year.

Quirks of Korean dating explained (6) Negative views of unmarried cohabitation (2)

(Clockwise from top) Lee Kyu-ho and his Canadian wife Sarah (Courtesy of Lee) / Kim Hyun-kyu and his German girlfriend Lara (Courtesy of Kim)/ Lee Chang-wook and his Swedish girlfriend Linnea (Courtesy of Lee) / Lee Ru-bin and her Lithuanian boyfriend Paulius (Courtesy of Lee) / Aybuke and her Korean boyfriend Jeong-gyu (Courtesy of Aybuke)

Lee Ru-bin, a 31-year-old Korean woman who lives with her Lithuanian boyfriend, Paulius, in Germany, can attest to the vast difference in perceptions.

“I think couples should live together before getting married to understand each other more. Whether your partner has a sense of hygiene or unique lifestyle is something that you can’t see while going for dates outside. This is the case not only in Germany, but also in Lithuania, where my boyfriend is from. People don’t have negative views of couples living together,” she said.

Linnea from Sweden agreed.

“In European countries, including Sweden, many youngsters leave their parental homes early. So it is natural for young couples to live together, which is economically beneficial. Sweden even has a legal term, “sambo,” referring to someone you live together with as a couple without being married,” Linnea said.

By Choi Jae-hee (cjh@heraldcorp.com)

Quirks of Korean dating explained (6) Negative views of unmarried cohabitation (2024)

FAQs

Do Korean couples live together before marriage? ›

In South Korea, living together outside marriage is now more accepted, with the approval rate up to 65% from 46% a decade before, while only 35% agree an unmarried couple can have a child, according to the latest government surveys.

Why do Korean couples wear matching outfits? ›

The rise of the couple look can be traced back to several decades ago, when Korean couples decided to ditch the traditional honeymoon attire—a suit for men and hanbok for women, a belted silk dress. Instead, newlyweds began coordinating their outfits as a way of signaling that they were on a honeymoon together.

What is the Korean show not married but living together? ›

The reality show follows couples living together, either before the marriage or instead of the official bonding. They disclose the real life of an unmarried couple who live together and their honest thoughts on love and relationship.

Do Koreans say "I love you quickly"? ›

Saying 'I love you' too soon You may be surprised when your Korean partner says “I love you” sooner than you expect. Because most Koreans usually decide to commit to their partner at an early stage of dating, it's natural to say “I love you” to each other.

Do Korean married couples sleep separately? ›

In modern-day South Korea, many couples still choose to sleep in separate beds or rooms due to personal preferences or cultural beliefs.

What is the average age for Korean men to get married? ›

The average age for men getting married for the first time rose 0.3 to hit a new high of 34.0 in 2023, with the age for women climbing 0.2 to a record high of 31.5. The number of South Koreans who tied the knot with foreign spouses advanced 18.3 percent from a year earlier to 19,700 in 2023.

What do Koreans look for in a partner? ›

According to a survey conducted in February 2024, about 33.5 percent of unmarried South Korean respondents said that personality was the most important consideration when they were choosing a romantic partner. It was followed by first impression or appearance.

What does the couple ring mean in Korea? ›

Wearing a ring on different fingers has different meanings in South Korea. A couple ring is traditionally worn on the ring finger. Whether it's on the right or left hand doesn't matter. A ring on the ring finger is a sign of love and commitment. A ring on your index finger represents friendship.

Why do Korean celebrities hide their relationship? ›

'Bad for business'

They cannot get married without permission. The driving factor behind these regulations is that industry managers want fans to believe they could have a relationship with the stars.

Which Korean celebrity got divorced? ›

One of South Korea's biggest celebrity couples has officially divorced. Actor Song Joong-ki and actress Song Hye-kyo were married back in 2017 after they met on the set of the 2016 hit television series Descendants of the Sun. The two played love interests in the hugely popular series.

What is the Korean dating show divorce? ›

Newly single and ready to mingle, divorced men and women enter the Dolsing Village looking to date, cohabitate and find love again. Watch all you want.

How do you know if a Korean guy is serious? ›

Korean guy likes you when he is attentive with you even he is too busy at his work or something he still have time for you . Always give an update about his life and what he do everyday, always called you even in the middle of the night. He introduce you to his friends, and family.

How do Koreans flirt phrases? ›

Cute Korean Phrases to Show Your Love
EnglishKorean (한국어)Romanization
I want to kiss you뽀뽀하고 싶어ppoppohago sipeo
Kiss me please뽀뽀해 줘ppoppohae jwo
I want to be with you같이 있고 싶어gachi itgo sipeo
I miss your smile미소가 정말 그리워misoga jeongmal geuriwo
11 more rows

What does Nae mean in Korean? ›

This is because 내 [nae] meaning "my" sounds so similar to 네 [ne]. Let's learn how to pronounce the Korean word for “your” more naturally.

Do Koreans live with their parents until marriage? ›

68% of Korean adults living with parents won't move out until marriage. A recent survey showed that the vast majority of South Korean adults living with their parents in apartments have no plans to move out until they are married.

Do couples who live together before marriage stay together? ›

The report is based on a national sample of Americans who married for the first time between 2010 and 2019, looking at what had happened and how stable the marriages were in 2022. They found marriage dissolution was higher for those who lived together before tying the knot. That's not new.

What are the Korean rules for marriage? ›

Marriage in South Korea is currently restricted to unions between individuals of the opposite sex as same-sex marriages remain unrecognized. People over 18 years old may marry with their parents' or guardians' consent. Otherwise South Korea's age of consent to marriage is 20 in Korean age (19 in international age).

What is the cohabitation rate in South Korea? ›

The agreed rate rose among all categories asked, with 39.1 percent saying “Men and women can live together while not getting married,” which stood at 26 percent in 2020.

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